While political candidates drone on ad nauseum about “Change,” I am forced to consider personal change. My life has changed significantly in the last 18 months. Discovering that I could not modify who I am to fit in with certain people around me caused a great deal tumult in my life. Realizing that the physical illness that I suffered resulted from a job that caused me stress, on many different levels, and effected my well-being.
A friend blogged about a speech that moved her. The speaker articulated his own personal growth and realization that his life’s dream actually did not meet his expectations when realized.
Tonight, I heard a profound speech from a man who having been convicted and sentenced to prison in New York for crimes related to or resulting from a drug addiction. He turned his life around because he wanted a life with his family, he didn’t want what prison offered. After entering recovery, he began to realize the skills he once used to sell drugs were actually marketable sales skills for legal and reputable products. While his world isn’t perfect, he pointed out that no one’s life is. Everyone has trouble. No individual has original or unique trouble.
Life is hard. The hardest part is remembering that we are not alone in this fight. Whether you’re religious or not, family and friends provide tremendous support. Even when it’s a friend who says exactly the right things, but you’re not just quite ready to hear them. Friends and family see what’s happening. Supportive friends and family will listen and help. Toxic people will become obvious when the trouble comes. Avoid the toxins: they just make life harder.
Supportive friends and family make life better so that a person can be open to introspection and change. I know that I have not said thank you, at all to some, or enough to others. Thank you all for your support and encouragement. Without y’all I’d still be in pain wondering what the hell was wrong with me.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a work in progress. But that’s how we all are. Self-awareness and introspection provide a wonderful mirror for those open to seeing themselves. I am daily surprised to find more new things about myself. Some good, some need improvement.